My List of 10 Things To Do In Your Twenties

1. Learn how to cook a proper meal (not just boiling instant noodles or frying eggs).
2. Save, and if possible, invest.
3. Fall in love.
4. Have your heart broken.
5. Go on vacation with your best friends.
6. Spend quality time with your family (especially if your relationship with them when you were a teenager was not exactly picture perfect).
7. Volunteer.
8. Quit that job you hate.
9. Set your life goals (and it’s okay to adjust them along the way).
10. Do something crazy on a whim and come out of it with a memory that will put a big smile on your face.

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The breaking point

For me this happened around 4 years after I graduated college, starting from the last few months of 2008 until early 2009. I was seeing the same circle of friends, I had the same hairstyle for years, I had been working the same job since I graduated, I felt like my career was going nowhere and work was no longer challenging.

What I did was I tried to change my routine and to try new things. I volunteered at church to be involved in activities for children and teenagers, I contacted old friends to network, I joined an online forum about beauty and fashion where I met new people who are now some of my really good friends. It worked for some time, but soon enough I was feeling restless again.

I was bored with my life.

After some serious talks with people I consider to be more experienced and wise, taking stock of what is going on with my life, and perhaps the universe intervened, I decided to take some drastic measures. I resigned from work, became jobless for 3 months, got a new (more challenging, more interesting) job, and not long afterwards, I decided to study abroad. It was not so much a point as it was a process, but if I have to pinpoint a moment in my life, 2009 was the breaking point. Within a year, I:

  • resigned
  • got a new job
  • decided I want to study abroad

Studying and living abroad really changed my life, even if it was only for a year, because during that one year I was as if I was pulled back to the starting line. I had been wandering away because I lost sight of my checkpoints.

When I think about it now, all those soul-searching came down to very practical things. I was unsatisfied with my current job because it was no longer challenging and I want more financial freedom, so I resigned and got a new job. I wanted to learn more about business and marketing, but my Accounting degree and old job did not equip me enough with the knowledge, expertise and experience I needed to achieve that.

I think what I wanted to say is there will come a point in your life where you have to decide to make it or break it, keep it or drop it (oh gawd, this reference is laden with Cost Accounting jargon). You are the master of your life and you are allowed to have dreams, but you have to realize that to achieve your dreams you have to take measurable, functional, realistic actions. Do not be afraid to go out of your comfort zone, but remember to consider the consequences as well. You’ll never know what awaits you.

In my case, after that breaking point, I became a more confident and focused person, yet I softened enough to open up my heart (knowing well that I would subject myself to possible heartbreaks and disappointment) and then I found someone who was worth all that. The breaking point allowed me to be broken, mend myself, and became better.

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